“Thank you for ALL the fabulous information to help me be a more loving, positive, connected parent! This has increased my capacity to love and accept each moment with my son! WHAT A GIFT! Thank you!” – Kara
As the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time: The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling, parenting expert Amy McCready brings a ray of hope to parents seeking to improve their parenting skills. Promoting positive techniques for parenting, she has enabled thousands to use strategies that have empowered them to correct behaviors in their children without nagging, reminding, or yelling.
As a self-proclaimed “recovering yeller”, Amy set out to develop a systematic process that gives parents the tools they need to parent in a calm manner. Her goal is to help parents create a fabulous relationship with their child so they can enjoy each stage of their child’s life.
Amy believes that the best strategy for creating a peaceful home is to have a Mind/Body/Soul time. For ten minutes the parent’s total attention is devoted to the child. The activity chosen for this time should be something that interests the child and allows for some interaction.
According to Amy, children have two basic needs:
- Attention from their parents. One-on-one time fills this need.
- Some power or control over parts of their life. Giving small areas of responsibility and control helps them feel like they are a valuable member of the family.
It is Amy’s sincere desire that parents will be able to take the tools she gives them and use them to improve their relationships with their children. By looking at the root of the problem and addressing the underlying issue, a parent can achieve the desired result of parenting without nagging, reminding and yelling.
One tool that Amy suggests for the consequences of misbehavior are the 5 R’s:
- Respectful to both child and parent
- Related to the negative behavior (if the bike helmet wasn’t worn, then restriction from riding the bike for awhile is in order)
- Reasonable in duration (based on child’s age)
- Revealed in advance (child should know what consequence will come for what offense)
- Repeated back (kids repeat back the rule and consequence to check for understanding)
To find out how to get kids to listen without nagging, reminding, or yelling go to http://www.GreatParentingShow.com/amy
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Several listeners had great things to say about the interview:
“I love the idea of spending one on one time with each child. Times where I have been able to spend that one on one time with my child has made a huge difference in the day. You really made this real for me in that I realized that each child of mine has a way to either get that attention or power. I can see this now! I also love the 5 R’s for a good consequence. We try to teach our children about choices and consequences but this really helps to get us back on track. So that I know I am truly teaching instead of scolding.” – Enrique
“I love one-on-one time in the car with my kids, especially the teens. I have a captive audience, little distraction, and quiet. I learn more from those times about their lives than any other time. It’s the sad part of them getting their licenses….car time is greatly reduced!” – Terrie
“Thank you for this show today! I plan to start the mind body and soul time today! I stay at home with my 3 kids and am well aware that quantity of time is not always quality. Along with helping them feel their needs are met, I think another benefit will be that I will feel better about my parenting knowing that I am proactively making each of them feel special. Much of my frustration during the day is from self -judgment and feeling like I am being reactive.” – Rachel
I like the R’s and Amy I think you are doing a great job.
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Nagging is one of the most annoying parental behaviors that kids have to deal with. Unfortunately, most parents do nag their kids regularly. During those times, it’s important to remember that the nagging is often done for a reason. It’s possible to stop the nagging by stopping the behavior that prompts it..
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Unfortunately, most parents do nag their kids regularly. During those times, it’s important to remember that the nagging is often done for a reason. Thanks for sharing your site.
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I strongly believe that most kids believe that once a parent is nagging them the minute they are told to do something or not to do something. but as Perry said most times the “nagging” is for a good reason.
Once we as parents stick to our principles and standards I guess the kids will eventually thank us when they have passed through different stages of their very confused lives.
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Being a parent is not easy especially when we want to have our kids do something but they can’t easily do them.. This can help a lot..
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This is a great post about parenting. Parents can learn many important matters about parenting from this post. The tool with 5R’s is awesome. Thanks for this great post.
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It’s important to remember that the nagging is often done for a reason. Thanks for letting me stopped by.
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It sounds like she is generally unhappy, and perhaps even suffering from depression.
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