Bullying occurs with every age group. Especially when bullying occurs in small ages and teens it might remain throughout life. Bullying is considered aggressive behavior to dominate others who are weaker than you. In a study, it is shown that about 37% of teens have been bullied online. And about 30% have claimed it is not their first time.
Kids are very busy in using devices and spend most of the time surfing the internet and your home internet may not be safe for kids. The over use of devices leads to exposure to a lot of individuals and at the same time can cause health problems like cybersickness. So it is better in first place to use social media for less amount of time.
Bullying has increased in large numbers due to an increased rate of communication media. The popularity of social media such as Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, WhatsApp has made bullying increase. Communication between unknown people has increased the rate of bullying.
Why do People Bully
1. Emotional instability
Everyone has certain reasons for bullying others. But it doesn’t mean that if you are sad, you should bully others. Emotional Instability occurs in every person, especially teens are more prone to it because of their changing moods, emotional trauma, anger, unhappiness, parent’s problems and many more.
The more a person feels sad the more chances of them being a bully.
2. To feel powerful
Teens love to be the center of attraction. Due to this, they love to do activities like bullying to grab others attention. They feel activities like bullying makes them powerful.
3. Peer pressure
People’s influence is one of the positive and negative aspects. Negative aspects like bullying may be due to peer pressure. The pressure of not losing their friends and not disappointing them leads to bullying.
4. Free time
When people have too much free time. Instead of doing constructive work, they tend to bully people online. Cyberbullying is easier to do. Due to the rise in social media, online bullying has increased.
5. People perspective
Humans have the possibility of changing the world. Everyone is different. People have different views, perspectives and opinions regarding things. This leads to people having less perspective on bullying.
What does Bullying Look Like?
Most teens may not be sure what cyber bullying looks like. They may be bullied but may not know about it as bullying is different. Let’s discuss what bullying looks like:
When everyone in your school has peers but you are alone and isolated then it might be a form of bullying.
When people start to call you different names which are not good to listen to then this is also bullying.
If you have heard unwanted rumors and lie about yourself then this is also bullying. The people who tend to bully others often spread misleading lies and rumors.
Often if bullying is big, physical harassment occurs. Physical harassment includes touching you physically inappropriately without your permission.
Do you know
A study shows that 49.8% of teens experience bullying at school while 14.5% of teens experience bullying online.
Bullying on Social Media
The social media craze has brought many positive and negative aspects of everyone’s life. The advance in technology and usage of social media has increased the number of bullying.
In the past bullying was only possible in school, colleges and workplaces. But now due to technology development, it has become easier and faster.
Instagram is a photo-sharing social media where people connect by following each other. Posting pictures, direct messaging, and commenting are Instagram main attributes of Instagram.
But for people who tend to bully, it has become easier by commenting over someone’s physical appearance. Also, they direct message using vulgar words, threaten others by showing inappropriate contents even tries to show lower your character
A large percentage of kids, teens and even adults use Facebook. It has become easier to become friends through mutual relationships. Bullying such as image alteration of an individual, posting inappropriate videos and pictures of bullying, sharing of information to threaten others, making separate pages for hating and shaming others.
Twitter is all about tweeting messages, opinions and sharing pictures. When people’s opinions don’t match with each other’s. It often leads to online abuse such as bullying, insulting, harmful and shameful comments. It goes too far when people cannot stop their arguments.
WhatsApp is an instant messaging and calling app. Sharing audio, video, photos are a popular way of bullying on WhatsApp. Threatening people have become easier due to the sharing of pictures, videos and private messages in various groups. Screenshots have paved the way to provide proof and threaten others as well. Group Chat has also increased bullying. People tend to share information through group chats.
You may think about how Snapchat is used for bullying. As everyone knows Snapchat is all about clicking pictures and sharing them with friends. But Snapchat has a feature that the picture that you send to others disappears automatically. As well as your chat might disappear as soon as you see it or for certain time limits.
But you are not completely protected. You can take screenshots of the pictures and text through your mobile phones. This has created blackmailing, abusing and threatening people.
Ways to Report Bullying in Social Media
Both Facebook and Instagram try to tackle bullying. But you can use the following ways to tackle bullies:
Facebook and Instagram:
- First Ignore messages and unfollow them.
- You can block the person by going to their profile. Click on the small three-dotted icon where you can see options of the block and report profile.
- If there is any inappropriate content that you do not want to see. There is a small three-dotted icon in the top right then click that icon. Then you report such contents.
Twitter is aggressive when your opinion doesn’t agree with each other. Steps to stop and report bullying by:
- Similar to Facebook, Instagram can block and unfollow them.
- You can use mute to remove their tweets from your Twitter.
- To report inappropriate content on Twitter. Select the tweet then click on the report. Specify the reason.
- If someone is bothering you then you can report them and also specify the reason. This helps them be unable to contact you.
Sharing of video, uploading inappropriate contents happens on YouTube every time But YouTube has come out with lots of ways to remove those contents:
- You can flag content that may seem inappropriate to you.
- You can also report the video by going to the three-line dotted icon at the top of the content.
- Similarly, you can report a playlist, thumbnail, link, comment, channel and a live chat message as well.
YouTube reviews all the content that is reported carefully. Then, It removes, restricts and permanently deletes the videos.
What Can You do If You are Bullied in WhatsApp?
First, WhatsApp is a messaging app. Different unknown people can contact you by adding your mobile number. Ways to remove bullying in WhatsApp by:
- You can block and delete the contact.
- Go to the chat with the content, block a contact, and click on block or report. This helps to block the contact or report the contact.
- You can block the contact through the number
If people take screenshots of your pictures or text you will be notified. You can confront them to delete the picture. But if the bullying occurs further then
- Go to the chat
- Click a Friend’s name or hold it.
- Tap more and remove them
- Similarly, you can block them too.
If they have sent inappropriate content then click on the report.
Ways to Control Bullying
Bullying occurs both in school, workplaces and online. The ways to remove bullying are:
1. Changing your privacy setting
Maintaining a private life helps you develop peace. It doesn’t give you unnecessary troubles, abuses, bullies. Try to maintain a strict privacy setting in all your social media. Do not add people who you do not know about. Only keep your close and mutual contacts. If someone tries to communicate and sent you inappropriate content ignore them or block them
2. Block and report
As we said above there are settings of block and reporting. This helps to block numbers, contacts, email and remove all their accounts so that they cannot bother you anymore.
3. Limit your personal information
Never share your personal information on the web. Name, address, and phone numbers, email should always be private. Sometimes the social media asks for information so that someone doesn’t hack your account. Keep the information but assign the information to only me. This doesn’t show your information publicly and only you will be able to see it.
4. Saving your Proof
If you are getting harassed then take a screenshot. These screenshots may help you in reporting the person on social media or you can complain to the police. If it is serious then take it to the police faster.
5. Don’t remain silent
If someone is getting bullied in front of you don’t remain silent. Keeping silent is like taking part in Bullying. Report it to the police or if bullying occurs online to report it to social media. Don’t be silent because next time you may be the one who might get bullied.
6. Share with an adult
If you are going through a hard phase then please try to share it with adults. They have more experience and know what to do about it. They know what is right to do. Never keep it with yourself and share it with adults. Don’t be afraid to tell because it is not your fault that you are getting bullied.
7. Look out for your teens
Parents must look out for their kids. They should be aware of their kids are getting bullied, or harassed. They must try to communicate with their children. Ask them frequently about what is happening with them, try to contact the school and colleges to make sure that they are doing well, try to check their social media daily.
Bullying has created many negative impacts on people’s lives. It affects mentally & psychologically. This remains throughout life and causes more serious damages to the mental health of kids. Due to bullying, some serious problems such as Suicide also occurs quite frequently. Mental disorder, psychological disorder, personality problems have to be taken seriously otherwise it will create a long term problem.
Don’t be a bully and don’t take part in bullying. Let’s think for a while and be sure that you have never bullied anyone. Don’t take it as fun as someone whose life may be destroyed. If bullying occurs don’t remain silent. You can do the following things if you are bullied:
- Block and Report the contacts.
- Take proof and share it with the police.
- Take adult
- Make your account private.
- Don’t share your information with anyone.