Banish the Bickering!

“I really enjoyed the tips from Sue. They are really down to earth, doable and manageable. Loved that Sue suggested writing the positive experiences during the day. I’ve been doing this personally since May and it has made a huge difference in my life. Great call.” ~ Claudette Chenevert

Sue Atkins is a parenting expert, writer, speaker, broadcaster and parenting coach as well as the author of Raising Happy Children for Dummies and the highly acclaimed Parenting Made Easy CDs and Workbooks. Sue is passionate about making life with children easier and more rewarding.

According to Sue, there are several reasons why children fight and bicker with each other. Some want parental attention. They will do whatever they deem necessary to get attention to feel valued. Some are jealous of their siblings. Sometimes kids just want to see what reaction their actions will produce. Even ordinary teasing can cause skirmishes.

There are several things parents can do to minimize bickering between their kids. The most important thing is to give each child 10-15 minutes of your time every day to make them feel special. This will dramatically decrease fighting between the siblings. Another crucial thing is to look after yourself. You need to recharge your batteries so you aren’t running on empty when you are dealing with your children.

In order to help children interact in a positive manner with each other, Sue recommends.

Giving the oldest child some responsibility with the younger children
Encouraging the children to comfort one another when needed
Having children teach their siblings how to catch a ball, how to tie their shoe laces, etc.
Giving your kids a job together to build the sense of them being a team (wash the car, cook a meal). This teaches them the “we” mentality, instead of the “me” mentality.
Encouraging the kids to entertain each other.
It’s important to remember that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We are all learning as we go. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Enjoy your parenting journey.

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